Over the next few weeks my blogs will be exploring how different emotions can impact on someone who suffers with borderline personality disorder.
The aim of this mini-series, is to help people understand what might be going on internally for yourself or a loved one, during certain emotional states. I am a firm believer that understanding (from all parties involved) is key to finding a way forward in self-management and self-love, and is a vital platform from which to begin the healing process. People with BPD do not have a different set of emotions to those who don’t have BPD, but we do tend to experience emotions with far more intensity than others. Because of this people often see our responses to seemingly minor triggers or events as gross overreactions and unnecessary outbursts. However, considering how each emotion we experience is significantly amplified, it is in some ways understandable why our responses are so much more extreme and volatile than yours might be in a similar situation.
I know that personally when I am in the moment of a full-blown crisis I find it impossible to articulate the exact nature of my distress or the cause of my current state, and I certainly would have no idea what I might need to help me. This can cause frustration for those who are trying to help us, as well as adding to our own frustration and sense of inadequacies because we can’t ‘just calm down’, and we can’t explain to you what is happening.
I will be drawing on my own well of experiences, and whilst experiences are obviously unique to each individual I hope that my mini-series will provide fresh insight and understanding, along with some (hopefully) helpful tips.
Each week I will focus on a particular emotion or state and look at:
- How and why it affects someone with BPD (more than you might expect it to)
- How others can help us
- How we can help ourselves
So far, my list of topics is as follows:
- Rejection (real or perceived)
If I think of any more emotional states I will cover them also, but let me know if there are specific aspects of BPD emotions that you would like me to write about. I am always open for suggestions and feedback via my contact form or in the comments section of each blog.
The first instalment of my mini-series will be early next week, but in the meantime here is a previous blog I have written about helping someone with BPD more generally.
Thanks for reading, and watch this space..!
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